“Put on earphones, act as if you can’t hear them, nothing pisses them off more than knowing that you don’t care about their sneezy comments, they will get irritated and eventually move on”, I can still recall the conversation I had with a fellow hostel mate. The third person, a female, suggested this when my aforementioned hostel-mate complained about the eve-teasing she has to face almost every day.
I don’t even know if that was right or wrong, my conscience is almost on the brink of death. I, being a girl myself, have to go through the same routine. Yes, the routine that includes the fight to earn equality, the fight to live a simple life where you are not reminded that being a girl in this world is a bane more than a boon. Should it even be a fight in the first place? It is really sad that we have to constantly be at war with the society, some of our soldiers are fighting hard and good while some got silenced by the societal pressure. Why is it so difficult to understand that we are humans too, born with an equal amount of emotions, insecurities, abilities and moreover, basic human rights.
“Next station is Rajiv Chowk”, I get up, adjusting my belongings and myself, a hint of fear runs down my spine, I can never forget the horrifying incident when of myself being groped from behind at the very same station. I put on a strong face, not letting the co-passengers sense my insecurities and fear, position my hands across my chest, bags behind my back, trying to cover myself as much as I can, I feel like a soldier about to enter the battlefield. I, obviously cannot compare the two situations but this is how I feel when I am out in public places, running errands and trying to mind my own business.
India’s Rape capital, doesn’t sound very appealing, does it? How would you feel inviting a guest and addressing your home in this manner? There were as many as 140 rape cases and 238 molestation cases that were registered in the month of January 2017 in the National Capital. “A poll in October 2017, the first of its kind in the world, which was published by Thomson Reuters Foundation, found that Delhi was the fourth most dangerous city in the world for women and it was also the worst city in the world for women when it came to sexual violence, rape and harassment.”
Now, what do we do? You being a son, a father, a brother and a human being, need to ask yourself this question. We, as your co-tenants on this planet, need an answer followed by genuine actions and more importantly, we want your support. Equality is all we ask for, peace is all we need. The word feminism has somewhere lost its essence. Feminism does not demand superiority, it demands equality amongst all. It demands the right to be treated as equals and to not be looked down upon as the weaker section of the society. It sends out a strong message to all the people out there, let’s be each other’s strength, let’s build a world where the next time you send your sister, daughter or girlfriend out, you don’t have to worry if she is going to return home safe and unscarred.
Varsha Sharma is an adventure lover, a bibliophile, adores Marilyn Monroe, loves to explore and interact with people, anytime and anywhere. A very optimistic, extroverted and super friendly girl with a bag full of dreams, she fits everywhere, however, she prefers the company of mystical, sane humans.